Wednesday, November 19, 2008

All I Want for Christmas is my... Lateral Incisor?

Poor Allie. Poor me. Actually, I would say this whole situation traumatized me more than Allie, even though she's the one who lost her tooth. And here I thought she would lose her first tooth the normal way-- you know, in a couple years a tooth would start to wiggle, and she'd play with it with her tongue until it fell out on its own. A nice and easy visit from the tooth fairy. I never thought the tooth fairy would smack her in the face. Well, actually it was the coffee table that did that.

After lunch yesterday the girls ran to Allie's room where they giggled and played. Since they weren't fighting I went in to my room to relax for a minute at the computer. I guess they had started to run around the house, Allie chasing Sami as usual, since Sami loves to be chased. Sami's giggle grew louder as she ran toward my room, the laughter followed by a deafening BANG! Then silence. I knew the noise had been something whacking the coffee table, and although it sounded like a baseball bat, I knew better and just prayed it wasn't Allie's head. I ran out to the living room. Allie knelt by the table, her hand cupped over her mouth, and she began screaming. Hurrying to her side, I pulled her hand away from her mouth to find gushing blood. After gently looking under her upper lip, I saw that her right lateral incisor (thanks, Mom, for the dental term) had been smashed in. It was still there, but not in the right place, with the gums already clotting and turning purple.

It took me a moment to come to my senses really. My heart sank and I cringed at the thought of what had just happened to my baby's face... and of what could have happened. Sami stood crying at the sight of Allie's injury, and I ran to the kitchen to grab a paper towel for Allie to hold at her mouth until I could grab a rag from our bathroom. I told her we'd have to go to the Emergency Room. And then I noticed Allie was dancing while I spoke to her.

"Allie, do you have to go to the bathroom?"

"Uh-huh," she whimpered, tears staining her cheeks.

"Darn it, Allie! Why do you always wait so long? Come on." I was a wee bit stressed out at that point, and she was slightly incapacitated, so I just did everything for her, with the exception of actually peeing.

I paged Kevin to fill him in on where we were going and what happened, and then got the girls shoes on them. We were about to leave when I realized we needed to pray. I asked Allie if she'd like to pray. Again, she responded with, "Uh-huh." I grabbed a girl in each arm, and we embraced as I prayed. I wish I had thought of that a little bit sooner, because that's really what helped me calm down.

We got in the van and drove to Holmes, Allie occasionally crying when something outside the car, like a book store or a pedestrian, wasn't holding her attention.

After parking and walking into the ER, we found it pretty much empty. I took a good glance around just to make sure that it really was as desolate as it seemed, and I sighed in relief. It took a good twenty to thirty minutes to get all the information needed to get her into a room to be examined, but she sat patiently holding the rag to her mouth. The girls were given little hand-sewn teddy bears-- for Allie, hers has become nearly as important and cherished as her Tiger.

In the room, the nurse turned the TV onto the PBS cartoons, which held the girls attention while their overwhelmed mama slipped out into the hallway to cry silently. The nurse had explained to me that there wasn't anything they could do for her teeth, and that I'd have to take Allie to a dentist. All they could do there was stitch up the wound inside her lip.

"She has a dentist, right?" The nurse had asked. Yeah, so that was on my to-do list for this month-- find her a dentist and take her to her first cleaning. Still hadn't done it. But now this had to be her first trip to the dentist. I was discouraged at the thought of calling my own dentist for fear the office staff would say she'd have to be in pain for two days until she could be seen. And then I thought about how she was missing her dance class at that moment (something which would devastate Allie upon realization of the fact), and I remembered about the solo she was to excited to sing in church this coming Sunday. I wiped the tears from my eyes and glanced back in the room at my sweet, innocent babies. Allie suddenly seemed so small, so young-- too young to be going through something so awful.

And then Kevin showed up, concerned at the sight of tears on my face. Poor guy just didn't understand why I was standing in the hall crying. He went in to talk lovingly to Allie, rubbing her soft head. Of course she was zoned out on the cartoon, and I don't think caught a word of what Dad was saying.

The nurse was a bit delayed in stitching up Allie due to a car accident that had brought in a few injured teenagers. But soon she came back with another male attendant. He held Allie's head while the nurse gave Allie's lip a numbing shot. Again, Allie was too much into Dragon Tales that she didn't make a sound. After finishing the stitches, the nurse went to get a list of some dentists to call while the attendant named Sam grabbed a couple Popsicles for the girls to munch on. Kevin went to the desk to see if they could look up Dr. Artley's phone number, Dr. Artley being our dentist. I had no idea if he took children, but I thought I'd check. The receptionist told me over the phone to just bring Allie in, so after being released that's what we did.

Dr. Artley looked at her teeth and took some x-rays. He could tell the tooth was so loose it would eventually fall out-- no point in trying to save a baby tooth anyway, with all the pain Allie would have to go through for that to happen. He suggested we just pull it, so that's what we had him do. He warned us about the shot, so while he prepped, I took a moment and explained the situation to Allie-- that the dentist would need to pull the tooth out, but to do that he would have to give her an ouchy shot, but it wouldn't last long. I asked the nurse to put a movie in for Allie to watch, which she did quite willingly. And then Dr. Artley came over with the syringe. I looked away until Allie started crying and then leaned down and grabbed her hand and held it tightly, kissing her head. That brave little girl held completely still the entire time. The actual tooth extraction took maybe ten seconds, and then our fat-lipped baby was done, with a big wad of gauze stuffed in her mouth.

I was so proud of that little girl-- to have gone through such physical trauma that afternoon without complaining. I don't consider crying to be complaining-- crying is therapeutic and healthy, complaining is just annoying. The ER nurse said Allie was her best patient of the day by far, and Dr. Artley was stunned by Allie's tolerance and patience, especially since she's only 4 1/2 years old. The hygienist put Allie's extracted tooth into a little tooth locket she could keep and wear.

Last night after her oatmeal dinner, she got in the bath happy as a clam, occasionally popping up to look at her "silly smile" in the mirror. After that, she's ask us every ten minutes if we wanted to see her tooth, and we'd excitedly declare we did. We informed her about the tooth fairy, and she faithfully put her tooth under her pillow in anticipation of getting money. Kevin slipped two quarters under there while she slept later that night. This morning we asked her if she got any money, and she said no-- that she only got a couple quarters. She thought it was cool when we told her that quarters were money.

She ended up going to school, too. Couldn't miss the annual preschool Thanksgiving feast of healthy kiddie snacks! She proudly shared her toothy smile with the faculty, and they pretended to be excited for her, while they glanced over at me in pity. I could see it in their eyes. Poor baby.

And then, what did Allie do when we got to school, with her jumping out of the van to run to the sidewalk? Tripped.

I almost had an aneurysm.

Monday, November 10, 2008

Just One More Time on my Soapbox

Okay, I just have to write about this because I feel like my brain is going to explode.

Call me naive, but I had no idea the Church would have to endure so much serious persecution because of this whole California Prop 8 thing. The Mormons weren't the only ones involved in defending the traditional family. Yet, we are the ones being targeted.

People have been protesting out in front of California temples, hatefully harassing members trying to enter. They've been sitting on the wall surrounding the LA temple, telling members to go back to Utah, even vandalizing the wall. Outside the San Diego temple, one hospice nurse attended the protest with her husband and son, commenting how she didn't understand how a church that had endured so much persecution in the past could be so "oppressive." Are you kidding me? For peacefully standing up for our beliefs?

Okay, let's get this straight. The early members of the Church were persecuted for standing up their beliefs. Those that persecuted them were not peaceful when they threatened them, burned their homes, ran them out of town, killed them, and tarred and feathered them. It was hateful. How much of that did anyone see Church members doing in their quest to encourage the passing of Prop 8? Hateful and oppressive? I don't think so.

Now, look at the flip-side. How much hate is emanating from those who are angry that Prop 8 did pass? Just as the early members of the Church, current members are being targeted for standing up for their beliefs. So, who's being oppressive?

According to quotes I've read, some homosexuals want to do everything they can to ruin heterosexual weddings, protesting at them or sabotaging them. I read of one person wanting to "take out" those from a long list of Mormons and Catholics who had contributed heavily to the "Yes on 8" campaign.

If Prop 8 had not passed, how many Mormons would you have seen protesting outside homosexual weddings? Probably none. They have better things to do. And they would have known that they did all they could, and would have moved on-- not protesting and making a pathetic scene. In the LDS-way, members still would have pressed on faithfully living the principles of the gospel.

Now of course, protesting is a right and privilege, but how much good does it do when it's filled with anger, hate, and lies? Or when people are made to feel unworthy and inferior because of their beliefs? Homosexuals might make the same argument against those that voted in favor of Prop 8. BUT our beef had nothing to do with the worth of a group of individuals. We know each and every soul is valuable and loved and is deserving of kindness and respect. We all are obligated to tolerate the sinner (as we all are such), but NOT the sin. And in this case, allowing gay marriage would infringe upon freedom of religion. Right now, homosexuals and the ACLU are filing lawsuits against the state, BUT how many would be filing lawsuits against the Church right now if Prop 8 had not passed? Since the Church will not marry homosexual couples, I'll bet the Church would be dealing with a good number of such lawsuits. And then would our temples be restricted from performing any marriages? Members needing to marry civilly first, then entering the temple later to be sealed? Would members not even be able to marry in our church buildings for the same reasons? It's possible, because the Church will NOT compromise principles. What a waste of money and time!

Besides, as it is in California, homosexuals have all the same visitation and inheritance rights as a married couple. They have "civil unions," but they just can't call themselves married. So what? Besides, they have the same right to marry as anybody... as long as the person they choose is of the opposite sex. And I, too, am restricted from marrying a lesbian. The difference is that I just don't have to deal with same-gender attraction, and many others do. Sadly, just as it is with any vice any one of us has to overcome, it's not something to embrace, but rather to fight and endure. Some may even conquer, but not all.

I doubt anyone will read this, and I hope nothing here offends anyone who actually does. But I needed to get all this off my chest-- I think Kev's sick of hearing me ranting and raving around the house.

Saturday, November 8, 2008

Crazy 8's

I was tagged by Janet... :)

8 Things I am obsessed about right now:
1. Getting Allie to remember that she can poop in the toilet
2. Figuring out how to stop Sami's constant whining
3. Getting Sami out of her room and into Allie's (to make room for the baby)
4. Making sure I don't eat too much
5. Ward music (especially for December)
6. Making sure our house is clean enough for my mom when she comes next month
7. Figuring out what the heck to name a boy!
8. Will Blogger work for me tomorrow?

8 Words or Phrases I use:
1. Girlies
2. For Pete's sake!
3. Right on
4. Dude
5. Homey
6. I dunno
7. Hon
9. Darlin'
8. Little turkey

8 TV shows you love to watch:
1. Numbers
2. Lost
3. 20/20 (But only if it's a John Stossel one. That guy rocks my world!)
4. The Dr. Oz episodes of Oprah (while I'm folding laundry at night)
5. Wow, I don't watch much TV anymore...
6.
7.
8.

8 Things I did yesterday:
1. Went to the beach
2. Spent 2 1/2 hours at some time share sales pitch
3. Went to a chocolate factory
4. Met a family from Minnesota and went to dinner with them
5. Endured Sami's whining
6. Went to a used book store
7. Dug for clams
8. Hung out at the Daytona Ocean Walk

8 Favorite Places to Eat:
1. Ottavio's (Provo Italian restaurant)
2. Los Compadres (San Diego taco shop)
3. Casa de Bandini (San Diego Mexican restaurant)
4. Skewer's
5. P.F. Chang's
6. Outback Steakhouse
7. Mighty Mushroom
8. Woody's BBQ

I tag: Erika
Rachelle

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

"Barack Obana"

Yesterday I informed Allie that I went to vote while she went to school. She said, "Mom, did you vote for John McCain?"

"Yes I did, Allie."

Then looking over at the newspaper and the pictures of both candidates, she said, "I want to vote for Barack Obana."

"Oh, really. Why do you want to vote for Barack Obama, Allie?"

Her mouth stretched into a goofy grin. "Because he's funny-- he has such a silly smile! Look at him!"

She seemed satisfied this morning when I told her Barack Obama did indeed win. She asked, "Did John McCain win, too?"

I guess she hasn't figured out that we only need (and want) one president.

It's Hardly the End of the World

So Obama won. Apparently the majority of Americans disagreed with people like me-- they really want a trip to the doctor to be like a trip to the DMV, or want government to steal (and yes, I do believe it's stealing) money from the wealthy to give to the poor ("We're gonna force those greedy bloodsuckers to be charitable, dagnabit!"), or believe that government really does know how to spend our money better than we do.

Okay. I can accept that. We as a nation will learn over the next four years what all that really does for us. At least we know it's going to be darn difficult for the Democrats to blame everything that goes wrong on the Republicans. They'll find a way, of course, since blaming is what politicians do best, but it ain't going to be easy. They'll have to get a bit creative.

But I'm not depressed, crying in my root beer. I'm just darn grateful that we don't vote for one's life-term. It's only four years. Yes, a lot can happen in four years. But again, it's only four years. It's not the end of the world. I really don't believe that in four years we will turn into a communist nation, or even a true socialist nation. Obviously the American people wanted some serious change, and we'll see if the change we get is really the change they wanted.

I am comforted knowing, though, that I still have my family, my Church, and my God. What happens in those realms government can't (and won't, I believe) touch. The American people won't allow that. Kevin and I can still bring our children up with true principles and correct morals, attend church and the temple, and pray to our God. Our home will remain our sanctuary. I have no doubts about that.

Yes, I do wish that more of the American people had not been so deperate for change that they would go for Obama's ideas of such, but I've voted and done my part, so there's nothing I can do about it now... except respect him as the next president of the United States. We will pray for him, just as we have done for President Bush. Whining about it will just make us bitter and angry. Plus, as I mentioned before, we still have ultimate control over our little family unit. It's not like China, where some government official is going to steal away for life one of our toddlers with Olympic potential (wow, am I grateful to be here!).

Although I have told Kevin, that we had better do something darn fun on my birthday next year.*


* My birthday is January 20th, for those that didn't know.**

** January 20th is always Inauguration Day, for those that didn't know that either.